Just to update:
I have an official job in Korea. A boys middle school. With an Irish lady. Should be interesting.
There will be only one other female teacher there....that's the Irish person. At least she's Irish. Too bad she's female.
I still have to get my visa but it seems I am not expected to be there until November 1st, not October 1st like I thought.
No wonder I was freaking out and they had no idea what was wrong with me.